To trust or not to trust advice on how to react

ok so I am dating a navy man. this weekend we will be three months in. It has seriously been an amazing time. He is away right now training for combat. he still texts and communicates any and every chance he gets. We met online . he has already said he loves me and that he knows what he wants…

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Dating Reboot – Out of the Frying Pan & Back Into The Fire


Dating Reboot – The Right Way

Forget the past bullshit & the tough memories. It’s party time!This post is for anyone looking to get back on to the dating bandwagon.

Many of you had been following my recent ups and downs, the good and the bad and the flow of my life through my writing and my relationships.

No matter if you’re from Surrey Hills or Scandinavia, dating (or dating again) can be a hard slog so I’m sure many of you will get some tips from my ranting.

There’s always hope at the end of the dating tunnel.

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Forgetting Is Important

There’s always a degree of hardship when you come out of a failed relationship. I went through this myself.

With every failure comes an amount of mental work you need to do on yourself. Equally important is to recognise and forgive yourself and your previous partner.

Failure is just another lesson moving forward to your success

This gets you on the road to healing.

With the next stop being to then forget all the past bullshit and move past those tough memories.

You can now focus on what’s more important:

  • your life
  • your success journey
  • and your ultimate and eventual happiness.

What’s done is done. You’re the person with so much to give, when you discover the right person who is right for you.

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Think Different

I’ve always been fond of a particular quote:

If you keep doing the same thing then expect to get the same results.

Now re-read it. I hope you are going to experience ‘a light bulb moment‘.

It was time for me to do something radically different.

After many conversations with different people in my trusted circle of friends, I decided it was time to move on.

Both from the country that I called home for 50 odd years as well as, what I believe, to be an ongoing sabotage of male equality in the western world.

That change was to make a new home in Thailand and, what I’ve now discovered, the delights and wonders of Thai ladies.

‘Yum’ is one word to describe them :)


Surprisingly Easy Happiness

I’ve been in Thailand now for about two months.

I took the easy dating path and used a dedicated Thai online dating website.

These websites continue to gain popularity by allowing you to remain relatively anonymous until you find a number of potential matches.

So during this initial time in Thailand, including settling in and familiarising myself with Thailand, I had coffee or lunch with around 14 much younger than me Thai ladies, and dated three of them.

I am currently with my 39 year old Thai girlfriend, Took (Thais all have nicknames which is kinda cute).


Taste The Difference

To give you an idea of just how much joy and fun she is, Took is:

  • Sexy
  • Sensual
  • Stunningly gorgeous
  • Slim
  • Respecting of me, as a man (Thailand culture is based around respect)
  • Respectful of my opinions and asks questions
  • Recognises the value I have to openly share
  • Actively and openly shares, of our mutual values
  • Easy to have a conversation with
  • And a few other things, equally important :)

Yes, Thailand really has opened my eyes to an increased level of happiness, I’ve never before experienced.

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Same Rules Or Not?

When we talk of dating, there’re always certain rules. You might call it etiquette,

In the way you go about things with a potential partner or ‘dating match’.

These rules have common foundation such as honesty and truth. Some rules will change, depending on the culture that you decide to date within. Thai culture dictates a few different ones.

It takes a bit of time to learn any new rules and I was fortunate enough to have a good friend I’ve known for 10 or 15 years who has already lived in Bangkok for two years.

When I touched down in Thailand, I was fast tracked into learning the Thail dating rulebook – great fun too!

For me (and you too), it was understanding there’re different mindsets to Thai women – good and bad and subsets of both.

I wasn’t remotely interested in any sort of encounter with Thai Bargirls nor after brief and casual encounters either.


Seek Who It Is That You Want

For those of you getting back into dating, I’d ask you to read a previous post I wrote, about clarity in the person that you seek. It’s an easy exercise to do and just requires a bit of honest thinking, on your part.

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It was no different for me in Thailand.

I used the same method which allowed me to decide whether the first lunch date was going to amount to something more substantial.

It was an essential part of my dating toolkit, to understand this clarity.

It’s unlikely you’ll find your ‘special person’ on your first date with the first person.


Try, Try Again

You need to try is many potential matches as you need.

Because Thailand has a greater percentage population of women to men, I found myself in the situation of having a number of beautiful young Thai ladies vying for my western man interest, at any one time.

Nice male ego stroke and a common situation here.

This required me to keep a running list of Pros and Cons on each girl.

That turned out to be good thing to do. I could give more attention to those likely to amount to something, on my Partner Wish List.


Test Drive

I know this sounds mechanical and the process is.

The dating game is a bit of a crapshoot.

You are playing the dating percentages here.

This is just the truth and the reality of the dating situation, OK?

That first meeting is a tick box exercise: weighing the attribute percentages you previously decided, as a good match for you.

Refer to that previous article, to better understand how that works.


Remember To Park The Car

I won’t enter into a relationship when there is a possibility of a third person involved. Relationships are an ‘All In or All Out’ situation.

It’s important for me to stop any further dating activity so I could give better focus to the woman involved.

After all, this is my own future happiness I’m talking about – you need to take it seriously as well.

You only discover the true nature of the person when you can do that and sometimes the test drive just doesn’t work out. Some marriages ultimately turn out the same.


Sometimes Dating Doesn’t Work Out

If the date isn’t working, it’s okay.

Have that uncomfortable conversation, to explain why it’s time to move on. It’s likely to be a sad time, for either or both.

Then go back to square one – try, try again.

Remember, you’re playing a game of percentages – the prize is your success, for your future.


Oh Yeah…

I’m as happy as a pig in shit too.


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5 Reasons You Deserve a Happy Marriage


Work, Deserve and Receive – Relationships

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No one wants to go into a relationship with the expectations of being miserable.

Being with someone for the right reasons can help prevent you from feeling like you’ve made a mistake.

Although your spouse may do everything he or she can in order to bring happiness to your life, marriage is a commitment that requires both parties to make the effort.

Everyone deserves to be happy in their marriages.

Not only can it make you feel like you’re a part of a special team, but it can fill you with pride when everything seems to click perfectly into place.


You deserve a happy marriage because:

You Both Work Hard At It

It takes a great deal of patience and understanding when you commit to a specific individual.

You need to fully accept their faults as well as the strengths.

There may be parts of each other that can be frustrating at times. However, working as a couple to accommodate each other can prove to be greatly beneficial.

It’ll take quite a bit of work, but the rewards of being happy together make the adventure worthwhile.

Just remember that this experience needs to be reciprocal.


You’ve Been Through A Lot Together

Life is full of new experiences whether they are good or bad.

Facing each moment together builds a history while strengthening a bond between you.

Each time you face a challenge together, both of you gain additional knowledge and respect for the other. It’s this bonding that can make separation quite difficult.

You become used to the other person being there to help, and you may feel incomplete when he or she is not around.

Looking back at everything you’ve been through together could fill you with a sense of great accomplishment.


You Want to Make Each Other Happy

In ideal relationships, you don’t want to see the other person unhappy.

The longer you’ve been together, the more this can affect you.

As you begin to form a cohesive unit, the feelings of one person can greatly affect the other.

You want to make sure that your spouse realizes that you are there, regardless of the situation. You can become elated when your spouse’s eyes light up when you give them the perfect gift.

At times it will feel like your happiness is in direct correlation with your spouse’s happiness.

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You Both Work To Improve Yourselves

Although you work as a single unit, there are many aspects about yourself that you may wish to improve.

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Self-improvement should be an ongoing activity as each new experience adds to your life.

Instead of being content with who you are, there can be a great deal more life has to offer if you accentuated yourself as a whole.

The more improvement the two of you add, the stronger you are, as a couple.


Your Marriage Is Awesome

Through the work and dedication you put into the relationship, you could have the most awesome marriage in history – at least according to you.

You may feel that you are just a part of a much greater whole and couldn’t imagine life without your spouse.

Every day can seem like a new chapter in how you as a couple triumph over life.


Not many marriages can work perfectly from day one.

Both parties need to put in the effort to make it the most ideal setting for the two of you as a couple. Compliment the parts of each other in order to make a whole unit.

After all, both of you deserve to be in a happy marriage.


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Battling Sex Addiction: 10 Alarming Signs You Badly Need Sex Therapy


Sex addiction happens when a person’s sexual behavior goes out of control. It is a hazardous & destructive condition. Watch the warning signs & seek help.


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Bouncing Back After Post Valentine’s Break Up


Heartbreak is never easy. Cry Til You’re All Cried Out. Sing Your Heart Out. Party Your Sorrows Away. and Rediscover Yourself to recover from the breakup.


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How Adult Toys Help To Get You A Better Relationship


For Any Open-Minded Couple

Partners should try experimenting to bring the fire alive.Adult toys carry a stigma as something only used for porn stars or sex maniacs.

Some also believe that using adult pleasure toys are unsuitable and are only for person pleasuring. But a little sexy product can also help in enhancing of relationship.

Whether you use adult toys for personal delight or with your lover, they can be helpful.

They can increase the intimacy of a couple and should enhance your overall sex lives.

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Some of the few reasons why adult toys are healthy for you and your partner:


You Are Able To Express Yourself, Sexually

Adult toys can give pleasure through stimulation, with and for your spouse.

They could be used by a couple in a mischievous mood which may increase the satisfaction during intercourse.

And maximum pleasure in your relationship by sharing with your partner, using lovemaking fantasies using these toys.


Having a Sexy Secret With Your Spouse

Some people around you aren’t open for any kind of sexual adventure particularly using bedroom playthings.

Many couples choose to keep these idea from the people close to them and keep the adventures secret and personal.

Sharing secrets like cheap dildos with your spouse can boost the closeness and their faith in your desires.

Trust, one of the very important factors a relationship should have, it is crucial of strengthening the relationship.


Be Sexually Daring

Couples generally discover something new in bedroom.

After living with someone for a number of years, sex becomes sometimes boring.

While using a bondage adult toy, couples can spice their bedroom or anywhere else, for that matter.

Both partners should try experimenting to bring the fire alive during love making.

By being a little daring in sex, you can refresh the passion with one another. The act of bondage could make the relationship more exciting instead of sticking on the conventional missionary position.


Go Shopping For Toys

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There are lots of people who like to purchase bondage toys for achieving an elevated sexual pleasure every time they have a sexual activity.

There are always a few who will hesitate to go to Adult Shops because they are too shy to speak about the toys or concerned about someone seeing them while going to these stores.

Buying from a reputable Adult Shop is recommended though.

The customers who shop from an online shop always have the ease of getting what they need without leaving the comfort of the homes and may also have the product for an inexpensive price.

What Impression can you make on your partner when you use these adult toys?

  • Usage of adult toys is no more a sin.
    • Nowadays, almost everyone has understood the importance of these toys, thanks to growing internet access and modern culture.
    • So, by using these toys, you will not make yourself a sinner in front of your partner.
  • Using sex toys depicts modern thinking and hence you will create an impression on your partner that you are well advanced and modern.
    • Of course, by using these toys, you are utilizing positive aspects of modern technology for the benefit of humans.
    • So there is nothing wrong in that.
  • Your partner will find that you are taking much care and love, by ensuring that you both enjoy to the maximum using these toys.
    • This kind of impression will improve your relationship even outside the bedroom.
  • Your partner will surely understand your passion to bring novelty in the bedroom, rather than getting bored with same sex poses and practices since years.
    • As these adult toys bring out much excitement and fun in your bedroom, your partner is going to enjoy to the fullest.
    • And will keep you loving much more than before.


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The Importance of Communication In A Relationship


The importance of communication is a relationship cannot be measured. You need to communicate and be understood by your partner if you want your needs met.


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